A relationship is a very confidential matter of concern and you have to be consciously aware when you think about being in a committed relationship with your deserving person. When you fall in love with a man with a strong bond of connection then your expectations get higher regarding being in a committed relationship which is normal. He loves to be with you and show his attention, affection and his love which convinces you that you are with a Mr right man. You invest your 100% energy emotionally with a hope that he gonna be your dream soulmate and you start seeing your happy and vibrant future with him as a perfect life partner. You start to experience a honeymoon phase before being in a committed relationship in the beginning but it starts getting faded as time passes which really compels you to be suspicious all the time. Your feelings and expectations get shattered when a man you love keeps giving you a similar pattern of excuses for so long whenever you try to request him for a serious conversation regarding being in a committed relationship. It might be very hard for you to identify the core reason for getting denied by a man you love unconditionally.
Whenever you invest yourself fullest being loyal then it's obvious to expect the same level of loyalty and commitment from your man as well. It is emotionally very devastating to continue an undefined relationship with an unfixed man for so long because it disturbs all the key areas of your life. Your mind gets occupied by only one man who means everything to you and you become clueless when he keeps delaying and extending every time for years and years when you humbly request for a committed relationship. You can't imagine your life without him since he is deep-rooted inside your heart and mind which becomes your compelling reason to continue your relationship with an unfixed man being in an undefined relationship. You might be wondering that why a man I love unconditionally can deny me for a commitment even though you are 100% committed and loyal to him. There are countless reasons for denying and extending the time for a commitment and you need to expand your conscious level of awareness for making a wise and mature decision before you get into the sea of emotional storms. Here are the probable core reasons for being afraid to commit for so long by your man.
He Isn't Over His Ex Yet:-
He might convince you with full confidence and with an eye contact that he is over his Ex but in reality, he is not over his Ex emotionally when you find him delaying for commitment for too long. He continues his emotional game behind your back with his Ex by being emotionally occupied and inspecting his Ex in every way possible regarding her every move. Actually, he doesn't want to lose you till he is unable to get his Ex or get over his Ex. He will try his best to not get caught emotionally and pretend to be happy being with you since you have become a woman like "Friends With Benefits" for him. He prefers an option while working on his Ex and he is with you for his self-centered motives.
He Might Have Experienced A Devastating Breakup Or Divorce In The Past:-
When a man you love unconditionally being loyal and if he is afraid to commit for a too long period then he might have experienced a very devastating breakup or divorce in his past relationship. He might not have able to get over his past relationship issues which are blocking him to commit but at the same time he loves to be with you and have quality time, romance including sex as well. The fear of being getting hurt again might be his compelling reason to delay for commitment and he might not be serious about commitment too since he is getting everything from you to medicate his emotional issues.
He Might Not Be Clear About The Purpose Of Being In A Relationship With You.
He might not have any clarity regarding the traits or qualities he is looking for in a woman and he might not be clear about the core purpose of this relationship. Since he has no clarity and purpose of this relationship, so he is not that much serious about being in a committed relationship. He just loves your company, emotional bond of connection, and having a physical relationship with you even though he can't commit till the right time arrives and that right never arrives in a real life.
He Might Not Be Mature Enough To Take Relationship Seriously.
Every man is not the same and maturity is the key element when for committing in a relationship. He might not be mature enough to take this relationship as a serious matter of concern and he might be taking it casually without knowing the purpose of this relationship. He might have some attention-grabbing qualities or traits which has confused you regarding his immaturity for so long. He is not aware of his own immaturity too since he is enjoying your company as he gets everything from you without any extra effort.
He Might Have An Abusive Childhood.
When a person is treated in an abusive way in their childhood phase then their belief system is programmed in a negative way which takes a long duration of time to reprogram it in a positive way. The negative belief system generates negative traits like fear and insecurities which paralyze their logical intelligence, emotional intelligence, and intuitive intelligence. He might have low self-esteem, low self- worth and he might lack his own self-identity which might be stopping him to commit for too long.
He Might Be Into Another Woman Too.
He might be in an affair with other women as well which might be his hidden core reason of not committing and delaying without any valid convincing reason. A man with such traits is qualified professional to play with many women at once without getting caught for so long. He is consciously aware of his every action and you can't be able to catch him if you ignore your emotional intelligence and intuitive intelligence while getting red flags being with him. He won't commit and he can't leave you at the same time since he is getting everything he wants by keeping you as an option.
He Might Not Be Mentally, Emotionally, And Financially Stable Enough To Be In A Committed Relationship:-
A committed relationship is a very confidential matter of concern which demands a positive harmony among the key areas of life to excel such kind of relationship for the lifetime. He might not be mentally, emotionally and financially prepared or stable enough to be in a committed relationship which might be his core reason for extending the time for commitment. He is able to get everything from you while working on his own personal issues which is like having a bread and butter without any extra effort.
He Might Be Addicted To Romance And Sex Only.
He might pretend to love you for the sake of having quality time, romance and sex keeping you as an option. He might be intentionally targeted you to use you for his hidden purpose and keeping you in a spider web trap without leaving any clues or red flags for getting get caught. He can't be serious for a committed relationship since he has got the countless woman to satisfy his needs of romance and sex.
He Might Have Engaged With You For The Fear of Being Single For So Long.
He might have experienced a series of breakup or divorce and had been single for so long, and he might have found you as a perfect emotional pill to bridge his emotional gap. He is able to cover his own insecurities and since he himself is not fixed emotionally which might be the core reason to delay commitment with the same pattern of excuses.
Whatever be the probable case scenario in your an undefined relationship with an unfixed man, you have to utilize your logical intelligence, emotional intelligence, and intuitive intelligence wisely while getting red flags. It doesn't matter whatever be his issues, all it matters is how you feel emotionally and intuitively being with him and seeing your future with him. When you give your best possible effort for your relationship to work but if he keeps delaying for commitment for several years with the same level of pattern then this is your wake up call. You need to be mature and wise enough to analyze the pattern of excuses and follow your emotional intelligence as well as your intuitive guidance system which can guide you in the right manner.
You can't fix his issues nor he can fix your issues if you continue the same pattern of relationship for too long. You must sit together for a confidential type of conversation and you need to humbly request him with love for working on each other's issues for fixing it first having some time and space till we get fixed. When you allow him some time and space to fix his issues and at the same time you need to work on yourself too since nobody is perfect and there might be a reason to manifest an unfixed man into your life as well. There is always a certain way to become a person you desire to manifest and you can manifest your deserving person who can reflect your soul by becoming the best version of you.
You need to expand your awareness regarding the working mechanism of the law of attraction and have the clarity regarding the traits or qualities you desire to attract your specific person. You don't need to focus your attention on an unfixed person rather you need to focus on your deserving ideal person. You need to practice meditation technique, positive affirmation technique, visualization technique, Nature alignment method and focus on your personal well being while building the best version of yourself. It would be a great idea once you create a vision board and put your all relationship goals and dream goals for keeping you on the right track which can help to manifest them into your physical experience faster. You must focus on your own happiness, personal well being and do the things that makes you feel happy from within. If possible schedule your life in a systematic manner and keep feeding yourself with a positive mental nutrition which is positive or inspiration or spiritual books.
When you get occupied by your dream relevant work and enjoy your own company then you will have enough time to build the best version of yourself. Don't engage with him while working on each other and harmonize your all key areas of life in a positive manner. You need to change the pattern of your life to experience the deserving pattern of your relationship life. You have to detach yourself from all the negative people and associate with only like-minded positive quality of people with whom you can grow in a positive way. You have to understand the fact that once you become the best version of you then you can be so magnetic to attract your deserving person and that person might be him or someone whom you deserve. If he truly loves you from the core of his being and if he is able to fix himself prioritizing you for a committed relationship then he will definitely be into your life sooner or later. You can't just expect a miracle to happen, being with an unfixed person and ignoring all the red flags knowingly, just because you have invested your precious time and energy for so long.
The hidden truth will definitely come to the surface once you detach yourself for a certain time period which provides him some time and space to fix himself first. Besides this, you will be able to work on yourself too to discover the best version of yourself and you will be able to read him through his vibes, patterns of excuses and red flags easily. Actually, when you continue your relationship with an unfixed man being in an undefined relationship for too long then it can create a huge blockage in the manifestation process of your deserving person. At the same time, If you force him to commit instantly then either he will commit or he will vanish from your life instantly. Once he commit by force then that relationship will not last for so long for sure. So I would say, be the person you desire to manifest then you don't have to deal with an unfixed man being in an undefined relationship for too long.
Note: If he loves you and if he is divinely meant for you then he will definitely gravitates towards you once he fix his own issues. You are so precious and you have to emotionalize and internalize this fact for altering your relationship life in a destined version way. If he is unable to fix himself and if he is still an unfixed man then ask yourself "will you be happy with this unfixed man forever being in an undefined relationship and is this your ideal man of your dream" then your emotional intelligence and intuitive intelligence will help you to make a conscious wise decision.
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