How to know that you are in the game of micro-cheating and risking your marriage relationship silently?
Cheating is the most devastating experience in a serious kind of relationship which can convert even committed relationship into breakup or divorce. The majority of people believes that infidelity means having a physical and intimate sexual relationship with another person only but in reality, infidelity has several forms. You can't always get black and white color lines to understand the real case scenario because there are some gray color lines in a relationship which is very misleading and confusing.
Everyone gets very defensive when they are even accused of micro level of a cheating act in their relationship life. You might be feeling like 100% loyal and confident about your every traits or quality but there is always some room for improvisation because nobody is perfect. You might be taking it casually while doing some unexpected act in your relationship which might be building the solid foundation for experiencing breakup or divorce sooner or later.
You might not be consciously aware regarding your involvement in the most controversial game of infidelity but once you have the self-diagnosis of your own thought, emotion and action being honest to yourself then everything will come to the surface. You might not have intentionally planned to cheat on your partner but the minor act of your involvement with other than your life partner can lead to the macro level of cheating.
When your minor act of infidelity stems so deeply then it can poison your serious kind of relationship without any short notice. You might be thinking that we are human beings and we commit mistakes but doing mistakes due to carelessness is far different than doing it unintentionally. You just need to understand the fact that, the way you prioritize your committed relationship will determine the chances of engaging yourself into the game of infidelity.
You might be confused about the concept of micro level of cheating and you might be questioning yourself that how can I cheat to my partner unknowingly?. These are the few case scenario which might lead you towards the macro level of infidelity unknowingly if you lack self-diagnosis of your thought, emotion, and action at the right time.
1. The act of flirting with the opposite sex other than your partner frequently.
You might be thinking that flirting with the opposite sex frequently is very casual and not harmful to your committed relationship but it might inject your relationship silently which can poison your relationship sooner or later. When you engage in hugging, kissing, touching someone using sexual words of appreciation with opposite sex other than your partner then you are building a solid foundation for the next phase of infidelity.
You might take the act of flirting with the opposite sex in a very casual and normal way but if you keep doing it frequently then your attention towards them will occupy you emotionally and it can poison your relationship sooner or later. You will start to have less interest in your partner and get occupied by other than your partner. You just need to ask yourself one serious question "Would I be happy if my partner flirts the same way with the opposite sex other than me? then you won't be doing such act anymore if the answer is "NO".
2. Being actively busy on social media platforms privately.
When you start engaging yourself on social media platforms in a private and addictive manner then it will create some distance in your relationship sooner or later. If you prioritize social media engagements more than your partner then you are about to land in the game of infidelity. In fact, chatting with the opposite sex in a very casual way frequently can start to occupy your attention emotionally and you might not realize it in the beginning.
You have to set some limitations and boundaries before you engage yourself with the opposite sex online. You just need to put yourself in a situation where your partner does the same activities on social media with the opposite sex then you will get the clue about whether you are into the game of infidelity or loyalty. You must prioritize your partner rather than prioritizing opposite sex who are strangers but occupies your attention emotionally without their physical presence.
3. Bridging your emotional gap of relationship with the opposite sex other than your partner.
You might be 100% loyal to your partner but if you start to share your relationship issues with the opposite sex(casual friends or Ex) other than your partner then you are unknowingly heading towards the highway of infidelity. You might have a very strong bond of emotional attachment and you might be feeling very positive, confident and complete being with that opposite-sex (casual friends or Ex) other than your partner but this is simply emotional infidelity.
If you are feeling lonely or if you are having relationship issues then sit together with your partner and refer professional relationship counselor to fix your relationship issues. Never look for a temporary adjustment of your emotional issues being with the opposite sex (casual friends or Ex) other than your partner. There should be a sound communication with your partner and there should be a regular diagnosis of your relationship life for shielding your relationship with more love and strength.
4. Spending your quality time being with the opposite sex other than your partner.
You might be thinking that having quality time with opposite sex other than your partner is a very common and harmless thing but it is quite different than you think. You have to be consciously aware when you spend your quality time with the opposite sex other than your partner on a frequent basis. You might be thinking that how can I ignore my friends or colleagues at work or college? I know how much I love my partner but being with opposite sex other than your partner frequently can lead you towards the highway of infidelity.
When you engage with opposite sex other than your partner privately then there will be some sort of emotional attachment which might drive you towards the highway of infidelity sooner or later. You have to ask yourself a very serious question being honest which is "Would I be happy if my partner spends the quality time in the same way with the opposite sex other than me? then you won't be doing such activities if you get the answer "NO". It's all about setting some limitations and solid boundaries for protecting, valuing and prioritizing your partner and relationship first.
5. Fantasizing and getting emotionally involved other than your partner.
This case scenario states that imaging yourself being with opposite sex other than your partner in a very intimate and sexual way. When you fantasize and get emotionally engaged with opposite sex other than your partner then you are in the game of emotional infidelity whether you realize it or not. You can be out of the world of fantasy and emotional infidelity once you give your attention to your partner and request them to be, do and treat the same way as you desire instead of living the life of fantasy and daydreaming.
Suppose if you desire to see your partner attractive and sexy then buy some attractive dresses and relevant things which can replace the world of your fantasy. If you keep fantasizing about the opposite sex other than your partner frequently then such act can create a distance with your partner sooner or later. You have to be consciously aware of your every thought, emotion, and action if you desire to experience a destined version of the committed relationship.
6. Addiction to chat and watching porn privately.
When you find yourself mentally and emotionally engaged in chatting with the opposite sex other than your partner privately then have self-diagnosis of your relationship instantly. Suppose if you have to hide your cell phone, laptop, tablets and looking for more privacy then you are heading towards the highway of infidelity unknowingly. Besides this, if you are addicted to watching porn privately then something isn't right in your relationship. Some couples prefer to watch it together to make their romance more passionate during romance session but watching it alone in an addicted way is another form of infidelity.
Actually, addiction is such a powerful driving force which can make you more aggressive when someone else tries to make you understand about the negative consequences of it. You just need to do a simple test to yourself if you want to win over your addiction, just ask yourself a simple compelling question "Would I be happy if my partner does the same act in an addicted way privately? then you will get the right answer to make a conscious wise decision instantly.
7. Prioritizing others more than your partner.
You have to maintain a positive harmony among your all kinds of a relationship instead of ignoring your own committed relationship for the sake of making others happy. If you prioritize your family, friends or colleagues more than your own partner then you are planting the seeds of infidelity in your relationship life. You don't have to ignore your partner to maintain your relationship with others rather prioritize your relationship and partner first without humiliating others. Your action reflects your intention and your partner can sense it through their intuition. When you keep ignoring your partner in front of your family and friends then you are digging yourself the grave for burying your committed relationship.
8. Privacy Regarding your personal and Financial Matters.
The shadow of infidelity starts to roam around your committed relationship once you start to prioritize your private life more and make every financial decision on your own without mutual participation or involvement of your partner. You have to be very transparent and make every financial plannings or decision being together with your partner which can help to experience a happy and vibrant relationship. If you are hiding about where you are going, with whom you are going and what you are doing privately from your partner then you are heading towards the highway of infidelity.
Besides this, if you are hiding bills or spending money excessively without informing your partner then you are poisoning your committed relationship. Actually, this is also one form of infidelity if you are ignoring your partner and doing the things you want to do most of the time frequently. When you keep hiding about your personal life and financial matters for so long then you have to experience breakup or divorce sooner or later.
Note:-The majority of people are not aware of the micro-cheating concept since they take it in a very casual way but it can be very devastating if you are unable to notice it wisely. It will be your wise decision to have a self-diagnosis on your existing relationship situation with your partner and your emotional state of well-being then you can come to a conclusion whether you are unknowingly involved in the game of micro-cheating or not. Your micro step of infidelity can lead you towards the highway of the macro level of infidelity which can destroy your committed relationship in a very silent way. I highly recommend you take professional help from a relevant counselor or relationship coach for fixing your micro level of infidelity issues to save your marriage relationship. I hope this article can spread some positive insights to save your committed relationship. Thank you.
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