Cheating is simply an emotional disaster which is converting the vast majority of relationship into a breakup or divorce. The act of cheating is not an accident rather it is an intentional act done in a fully conscious state of awareness for a physical pleasure or for bridging an emotional gap or for meeting the desires of an attention, affection, appreciation and respect. The majority of the people believes that cheating means having an affair with someone else sexually only but there are different forms of cheating which leads to an intimate sexual type of relationship with others.
You must track your relationship every week to know the bond of relationship you have with your someone and to identify the core areas to work on. Actually if you or your partner lack communication, attention, affection and experience sexual life issues then it compels to engage with someone else. Both partner should be consciously aware about working on a relationship being committed to live a happy and vibrant relationship life. You don't need to end your relationship instantly after experiencing the act of cheating from your someone rather work on it to fix it being with a professional relationship counselor.
The vast majority of the people believes that "Once a cheater is always a cheater" which is completely a wrong statement full of judgment. Actually the track record of research shows that even a healthy marriage is also going through an infidelity and are able to fix it by their committed mutual effort. Never get devastated mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually for so long rather work on your relationship to fix it being together even though there is no space for the word trust and love. You just need to believe that cheating is a part of your relationship life not the end of it.
When your partner starts to show such signs like hiding text messages, watching porn privately, accessing the dating websites frequently, lying and keeping privacy regarding whom they meet in person then your partner is a cheater. Normally your partner may start working late, go for unexpected vacation trip without you, gets angry at any minor argument, gets unexpected calls in their cell phone, their debit/credit card shows unexpected expenses and starts enjoying without your presence in their life after being in an intimate sexual relationship with someone else.
When your partner feels regret about their cheating act, starts to love, appreciate and give attention more than before, shows deep interest to work on a relationship being with a professional relationship counselor and beg for forgiveness then your relationship can be fixed. Besides, this if your partner keep continuing their act of cheating more frequently even after working on your relationship then it's time to make a conscious wise decision. You must give your best possible effort on your relationship to work but if it didn't work then let them go being grateful. Never jump into a new relationship instantly if you decide to leave your partner after their frequent act of cheating rather take some time and space to work on your emotional storms.
Note: I know how it feels when your partner cheats on you behind your back but never make a decision instantly based on their cheating behavior rather work on your relationship to fix it. The vast majority of the people are leaving their relationship too early after experiencing the act of cheating from their partner. Never get driven by your ego, anger and negative self while making your confidential type of decision regarding your relationship. Just calm down yourself, take a deep breathe and look for a professional relationship counselor to work on your relationship to fix your relationship life.
By Dhiraj Kumar Raj
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